After six years of silence Adele last week released “Easy on Me” from her forth coming album set to be dropped on the 19th of November 2021.
I am one to listen to a song or read a chapter of book or watch an episode of a series and immediately share my thoughts but with this song I carefully took my time to let it assimilate in every fibre of my body and feel the parts that spoke to me.
The most important lesson I picked out was putting yourself first. As human beings we love being loved by other people, we want to be admired by others, we love pleasing the populace and always forget to put our personal feelings first.
Friendships, relationships, marriages do not always work out and sometimes we lose ourselves trying to stitch together unions that have utterly been broken. Adele conveys a powerful message that there is power in giving up. She is teaching us to give up on things and people who no longer contribute to our growth as a person and focus on ourselves.
The song helps one to understand themselves better, to reflect on their life and mental health. Is it still worth it? Is it bringing you any form of happiness?
“I know there is hope in these waters But I can’t bring myself to swim When I am drownin’ in the silence,” this verse is a reflection of how sometimes we always want to keep pushing but the strength will be gone and she is saying it’s okay to give up.
“There ain’t no room for things to change/ when we are both so deeply stuck in our ways,” “You can’t deny how hard I’ve tried/ I changed who I was to put you both first but now I give up.” This is where it hit me, when you change yourself to put someone first you are not even giving the other person a chance to know you as an individual or to make up his or her own mind about whether to have a relationship with you or otherwise.
Most of your attention winds up focused on them and there’s very little energy left for yourself at the end of the day, this means not speaking up if you disagree about something or just letting it go. You end up always ignoring things that go against your own beliefs just to please the next party which in turn becomes both mentally and emotionally draining.
Before she released the song on the 15th of October she said “I’ve learned a lot of blistering home truths about myself along the way. I’ve shed many layers but also wrapped myself in new ones I feel I’ve finally found my feeling again. I’d go so far as to say I’ve never felt so peaceful in my life.”
It’s okay to voluntarily choose to drop everything in the pursuit of your own happiness.
If you have not listened to the song yet, click on the video below and get some courage to put yourself first, to love yourself, to learn and understand yourself so that you never have to change and lose yourself for someone else.
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