The statistics that were recently shown on the number of divorce cases in the country are pretty much worrying. This was revealed after Media Personality Ruvheneko Parirenyatwa divorced her husband of seven years.
Her divorce was one of 300 separation cases filed so far this year out of 1,556 cases before the High Court. One of the recent cases included a couple that wedded only last year in December.
Separation and divorce have become commonly accepted in parts of the world. These statistics again and again point out that what has started so well did not turn out as they had hoped.
Where are we losing it when it comes to settling down and actually having long lasting marriages? People are getting married for the wrong reasons. We are chasing money, looks, professions and not a life partner, a friend, the love of your life.
We are not investing in the important values to have a long lasting marriage. First of all a relationship before marriage should be built on friendship. Read here an article I wrote on the importance of friendship.
In some instances some relationships are built on this strong foundation of friendship but somehow the terms “husband” and “wife” add so much more pressure than we’ve experienced in our relationships prior to the marriage.
Often times, without realizing it, we forget about the friendship that was formed in the dating process and get so far away from it after the nuptials. We should approach marriage with friendship at the forefront and learn to be able to communicate with our partners from a friend perspective without always being so easily offended.
Love is another aspect that most couples are ignoring. Of all of the qualities that contribute to a healthy and happy marriage/relationship, love is the first and primary attribute on nearly every person’s list. This tells the capacities about the power of love and what it can do to help maintain a marriage/relationship. Love is what turns a good partnership into a great one, and it’s also what turns lovers into best friends.
We blinded by the idea just being in a relationship or marriage but with no genuine love. Its cliché but true, love does conquer all. In this article I write on why you should marry for love.
Marriage needs to have a meaning. If you do not love each other you will be unable to share your life with your spouse in the way you should. Consequently your marriage has no meaning.
Marriages were designed to function best with that God’s enduring love. We cannot depend on finding that perfect partner whose love is sure and constant. If we depend on our partner’s perfect love for our source of love, then we will be disappointed. Love is constant. God’s love keeps steadfast right through all the shocking discoveries. God should be at the centre of it all, we can never do it without him guiding through it all.
1 Corinthians 13 1
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
In nutshell when we marry for other reasons that do not include friendship and love what happens when those things no longer exist? Looks fade, people lose jobs but when you have love and friendship it is easier to weather through life problems. It is easier to work things out.