I have lost count of the number of times I have been told “let him chase you, don’t make it too obvious you are into him, you doing too much, find a man that loves you more than you do” and still wind up single.
We have been told men love the thrill of the chase and it’s not your role as a woman to chase.
Now here is why letting him chase is bad advice. The answer is simple, when men chase it is infatuation and lust. When men are willing to chase they are locked in the fantasy and hype they have towards the woman.
Secondly when you put a man in a position to chase you make him insecure because he is not sure you want him. He is not sure you are serious or just playing him.
Thirdly when you make him chase you, you are giving him an opportunity to switch up on you. When he is chasing he will do whatever it takes to get you but once he gets you it’s your turn to do the chasing.
You begin to chase him, he stops putting in the effort he was for months and this brings in lots of unhealthy and toxic vibes. It was not about a healthy relationship but simply getting you.
Remember I’m not saying it never works but if you look at it as chasing you will risk losing the right guys, you will risk getting caught up with the wrong guys and risk finding yourself in situations where he will switch up on you.
Meanwhile, most of the times when women make a man chase they are usually not interested. As a woman I know when I feel the strongest desire towards someone, I give myself pep talks in front of the mirror about holding back and not showing too much. But if I can sit back and make him chase, I really don’t care.
If u chasing something that’s means it’s running away from you.
Always focus on mutually beneficial relationships, mutual effort and mutual building together.