I’m sure you have heard quote “when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.” Maya Angelou. In relationships it’s quite common to give someone time or a chance to change.
You see there is something you do not like in their behaviour, he is inconsistent, does not align with your expectations but you still hoping they can be better. Reality is, how he treats you, what he shows you maybe how he feels about you. Not nice, I know.
A man will only put in work for a woman he really wants. Women spend a lot of time trying to figure out how he really feels, from his actions to his words and sometimes the two aren’t even aligning.
If a man really loves and cares about you, he will care about how you feel resulting in how he treats you. He will make it a point to make you happy and pour into your needs. Got that?
If you are worrying about how he feels about you, look at how he treats you. Not in a moment but how he treats you consistently. Is the kind of behaviour recurring?
Don’t get caught up in ignoring the red flags because he did something nice today. Common right.
However, sometimes you may need to tell him how you need to be treated. Some things are supposed to be common sense but we have been raised differently by different people and at times common sense isn’t so common. Yep.
If you really want to know if he is into you, is serious about you and the relationship, you have to let him know how you want to be treated. When you lay it out to him, he will step up and do those things that you require.
Pay attention to how he responds to your feelings, what you require in the relationship. A man that is not serious will make excuses, dance around the subject or even make you feel bad for pointing out your needs. At this point you should know you are with the wrong person. Right.
If he is considerate of your feelings and loves you, a change will be seen. If he is not serious about you and the relationship, he will not step up.
Meanwhile, as a woman it is important that you return the love. At times we sit back, relax waiting for him put in the effort, desire and attention. He will grow tired and will eventually stop trying. Reciprocate his efforts too.