Women, There is more to Life than Pleasing Men

I was recently disappointed by an all females WhatsApp Group that was meant to be a platform where ladies share ideas, opportunities and network. Instead it turned out to be a space where sex, men and marriage were the topic of the day.

I would wake up to over a 1000 messages each morning about someone getting laid, someone that’s horny, drinking or marriage.

I have no problem with these topics; I don’t mind talking about sex, men, drinking or marriage. I actually love these subjects, I’m sure one can tell from my blog articles.

But I have a problem if it becomes something that we live for, as if women have no purpose in life but to please mean sexually.

If it’s not about keeping your vagina tight, clean and fresh it’s about keeping a man, how to ride him the right way, all that BS !

I have seen this in so many platforms, people do not want to have constructive conversations that help us grow and become the leaders we want to be.

If we can’t implement what we are pushing for in our spaces, where will it be done? We will continue singing this woman empowerment song for the longest time if we do not put our words to action.

We are the pioneers of bettering ourselves and advocating for safe spaces. Women are spending too much time thinking about what men perceive of them.

Its time women step up, sizinuke amakwapha (reflect on ourselves). Let’s be hungry for leadership, for growth and empowerment.

“I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie


“We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.”
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

“A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man, after a certain age isn’t married, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

“We teach girls shame. “Close your legs. Cover yourself.” We make them feel as though being born female they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up — and this is the worst thing we do to girls — they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

Here is an empowering song to uplift your spirit and boost your confidence

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  • Eunice Tossy
    December 20, 2019 7:21 am

    Faith.. Am glad you talked about this.. We have been taught by the society that this is our role , to the extent this is the only education we seek.. As if that’s our purpose in life..

    Girl, nobody could have said this better than you.. And that ‘Let’s learn about how to make money, the rest will clean itself’ comment is life!???

    • faithpanashe
      December 20, 2019 10:52 am

      Thank you for stopping by. Appreciate it. I wish other women actually understood this, the power is within us.

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